I really need some advice.
Ok, so here's the deal.....
I got a call from my cousin, Michele. She started rambling on and on about some weekend where she was expected to pay $500 to stay in a hotel. I really had no idea what she meant. At first I thought she was talking about Disney World because she's going with her family in a few weeks. Nope, that wasn't it. My brother's wedding? Nope. I just wasn't following. Then the conversation went like this:
Michele: Why didn't you tell me about Jackie's bachelorette party?
Kelly: I was going to tell you, Jenn (her sister) & Nicole (our cousin) when everything was planned and finalized.
M: Kel, the E-vite went out. It's a little late for that.
K: E-vite? What E-vite?
M: You tell me. It says "thrown by the bridal party"
K: I have no idea what you're talking about. Read it to me.
So she proceeds to read the E-vite that was sent out on “behalf of the bridal party.” It details an entire weekend from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at noon. The hotel is $245 a night and sleeps 4. The bridal party has reserved 2 rooms. On Saturday we are going to a club (which costs $100 to get into) in NY. Blah, blah, blah...
Wait…whaaaaaaaaaaaaat? I was speechless. Completely speechless. None of the other bridesmaids asked for my input, opinions or even emailed/called/text to tell me about the plans. When Michele and I got off the phone I went into my email. I checked my inbox, my deleted emails and my spam. Not one single message about the girls’ weekend. Not even the E-vite. What the fuck was going on???
I text Michele to ask her if she could send me the E-vite. When I opened it, I scrolled down the list of guests. Each bridesmaid was invited along with several of Jackie's friends and relatives. Michele & Nicole were invited, but Jenn was not. Neither was I.
Yes, you heard correctly. I was not invited to my sister-in-law to be's bachelorette party. 2 of my cousins were. I was not.
I'm really pissed and hurt that they completely forgot about me. I mean, the last time I checked, I was a bridesmaid. Oh, not to mention, the groom's sister!! Grrrrr.
Part of me wants to be a super bitch and call them out on it...to let them KNOW they forgot about me. The other part of me thinks that since they didn't bother to invite me that I'm not obligated to respond at all. Michele says I have to go but I don't want to. The bachelorette party is 2 weeks from Christmas and a month from their wedding. I’d rather spend the money on those things than to waste hundreds of dollars for one weekend... not to mention be stuck with a bunch of bitches that don't care enough to make sure the entire bridal party was invited. No thanks.
I really hope that since they couldn’t bother to fill me in on their plans or hell - invite me - that I don’t factor into their financial calculations. I hope they don’t expect me to put in money for the weekend that I’m not invited to. Fuck that. Not happening!
What would you do? Should I say something to them or ignore it? I told my brother what happened but I haven’t told Jackie. I know that planning a wedding is stressful. I really don’t want to add to her stress.
What to do?? Akkkk!
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